Sunday, May 13, 2012

A Weekend to Celebrate!

This weekend was full of celebrations.  Yesterday was David's 40th birthday :)  I had so much planned...surprise party, expensive gifts, "Lordy, Lordy Look Who's 40" signs in the front yard...but...not a chance!! I was specifically warned that if any of these things occured, the wedding would be off.  David wasn't having it!!! I looked at Super Bowl tickets but they were like $2500 a piece and with the wedding next month...I had to kick that idea to the curb :(  Here is the ONLY thing he would ALLOW me to do for his birthday


Peanut butter ice cream cake...that's it.  David's not the happiest man in the world right now.  He's not embracing this 40 thing. I told him 40 was just a number.  His reply, "It's a BIG number."

Well, today is Mothers Day.  I always tell the kids that I prefer the "homemade" cards and gifts but honestly...I love the gifts I was purchased this year!!!



I specifically asked for the Scary Mommy book but the Zumba for the Kinect was a surprise.  If you are not familiar with the Scary Mommy blog then you are really missing out.  It's an HONEST look at motherhood...lots of cursing and complaining but in a very funny way.

http://www.scarymommy.com/

https://www.facebook.com/#!/thescarymommy

Check out the links above for some funny stuff!!!! Make sure you read the confessionals on her website.  WOW!  People definitely write openly when it's anonymous!!!!  Here's some examples of what you can expect if you visit:

"I named my son after a boy I had a crush on in high school...my husband has no idea he has a namesake."

"My baby's vibrating bouncy seat broke yesterday, so now my 'top of the drawer' toy is wrapped in a receiving blanket and tucked into the side of the car seat.  Desperate times call for desperate measures."

"My 18 month old still can't say 'Mommy,' but used the word 'shit' in perfect context today."

"I kiss my young teenager good-bye in the morning as she leaves for school, rising above the hormone-fueled snarling and histrionics.  Then I close the front door and flip her off, with both hands."

PS...the book is hilarious so far!!!

I was so excited to get Zumba!!!!  I put on my black stretchy pants and my Hooters tank top and off I went!  I did a few routines but started smelling the sweat after awhile and decided that was enough for one day ;)

Anytime I get anything with a picture of Jillian on it...I'm in love!!!!  Love seeing her little face and beautiful smile!!!

I'm big on cards! So, to me a card is more important that a gift...don't know why, just it is.  The best Mothers Day card I ever received was when my kids were younger and my ex-husband picked it out for them.  The front of the card said "You are like a mother to me".  Really?  I hope so...considering I AM your mother.  It was hilarious.  He didn't really read the card before he purchased it. LOL.  Haley's cards mean more and more to me as the years go on.  This years card described why she loved me being her mother.  So special to me.  More special than I can actually put into words.

BUT...here it is...the card of all cards.  Here is what Brayton gave me for a card:



A handwritten letter from him.  I couldn't get a good picture of it, so here it is:


Dear Mom,

I really love you! I so thankful that you are my mom.  I wouldn't like it any other way.  If I had any other mom, I'd find you, and go to you.  That's just how much I love you!

I love you for many reasons, but here are just a few of them.  You special, and perfect for me.  You're nice, kind, caring and thoughtful.  You're also loving, fun, and amazingly cool.  You can also warm up my heart when it's cold.

You also do much stuff for me.  You answer my problems.  You give me food, drink, love and a roof above my head.  You also make many really great meals (I especially love your desserts!) When I'm stuck on a page of homework, you help me.

These are all things that make you unique.  These are also reasons I love you a Bray-ton! Without you, I wouldn't be who I am today.  Without you, I don't know what I'd do.  You are the best mom ever!

With so much love,
Brayton B., your loving son.


Ummmm...enough said!

~Jen

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

I was cleaning out some old boxes yesterday and  came across my notebooks from when I was in outpatient therapy.  I decided to read through them realizing just how far I have come since then.  Some things were hard to read but most were enlightening.  During therapy I was encouraged to write.  So I did...A LOT.  I wrote down my feelings, my thoughts.  I wrote letters to people that were in my life and to some that had left. It did sadden me to see how "messed up" I was. I should have never been dating!!!  I came across this one entry that I wrote and thought I would share it:

9/12/2009, Give Each Other Plenty of Space to Grow

When you meet someone and fall in love, you want nothing but the best for them.  You also want to see them realize their full potential - physically, intellectually, emotionally.  Sometimes the persons full potential takes place during a relationship.  Therefore you must give each other room to grow.  This may involve self-sacrifice as you relinquish your mates attention so they can reach their full potential.  Sometimes it also means giving your mate room to suffer.  Sometimes it also means you may suffer also.  From situations that may be painful, they will bring about meaningful growth in character.  When your relationship is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.  So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be strong in character and ready for anything.  Open your arms and release your mate so they can work all things out for the good.  Encourage their growth and then be ready to take them back into your arms to enjoy their full potential.

I can't tell you if I copied this passage from a book or if they are my original words, because I did not note it, but I do love what is written and oh so true.

I wrote a lot of positive quotes also.  Here are some of my favorites:

Prove your Love with deeds by day, then express it once more at night - speaking from your heart.

Come out of hiding.  You will no longer feel the need for even the smallest deception.  Best of all, the intimacy you long for - with each other - will grow.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Two people are often joined together who have vastly different strengths, weaknesses, talents, interests, personalities and perspectives.  The character traits of each compliment the other, making the couple stronger, expanding their potential, and creating a life that they never could have known apart.

The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.



~Jen

Monday, May 7, 2012

Fifty Shades of...HOLY CRAP THIS IS GOOD!



I thought I would start with something funny.  If you missed the Saturday Night Live skit about the book, click the link below to watch it.  Really funny!!!

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So I have never been an avid reader.  I absolutely hated reading in school and even as an adult, it's hard for me to find something that peaks my interest.  When I do read it is usually self help books or inspirational books.  Don't Sweat the Small Stuff is one of my favorites.  I learned a lot from that one.  I recently read The Help.  This was the first book in an extremely long time that I desired to read.  It was good.  I was thrilled with myself that I read the whole thing :)

Then, I was driving one morning and they started talking about this book, Fifty Shades of Grey, on the radio.  The dj called his mother on the phone (she happens to be very conservative) and began reading passages from the book to her.  She was appauled.  I was amused.  I found it funny because they made it funny.  I really didn't give the book much thought after that.  Then, I started reading on facebook that a lot of my friends were posting about how wonderful it was.  This is absolutely not my type of reading AT ALL, but I figured I would give it a shot.  I went out and purchased the first book, not knowing what really to expect (except sex).  I sat down to read the book and 2 days later...it was finished.  I have never read a book that quickly.  I didn't want to put it down.  Her writing was so good, I couldn't believe I was interested in something like this.  I was not happy with the ending of the first book, but it made me excited to read the second.  As I started the second book, David started the first book.  He wanted to read the book to find out what had peaked my interest so much ;)  I finished up the second book in record time also.  Again, not happy with the ending because it made me want more.  I've just started the third book in the series and don't really want to read it quickly.  This is the last book in the series and I have NEVER been so into books like I have these that I don't want it to end.  Who knew that erotica books were my type of books???? ;)  I can tell you that David is thrilled that I am reading them!!! lol. 

I want to write so much more but I don't want to give anything away. 

They are in the process of making a movie...with an NC17 rating.  Here is the guy they are thinking of to play Christian...his name is Ian Somethingorother...






Ummmm...that would work for me ;)  Look at the last picture....grey eyes, little smirk.  I can totally see it!!!







Happy Reading!!!

~Jen